I normally spend a lot of time in the bathroom at home. Most guys probably know what I’m talking about. You would think that everyone would leave you alone in there.
But people, especially children, don’t always respect bathroom etiquette.
Now that we are all spending so much more time at home, I rely on my bathroom time a lot more than ever before. It’s a place that is consistent and relaxing for me. I do some of my best thinking and reflecting on the throne, and often times that’s all that gets accomplished during a visit.
And yesterday, just before my legs fell asleep, I lost it.
I didn’t cry, I bawled. It didn’t last long, and I felt a lot better once I came out of it.
I’m not sure exactly what triggered it, or why at that moment. Obviously, we are all stressed out, uncertain, and concerned about a lot of things right now. But in reality, my family has been doing great considering the circumstances. We are actually enjoying spending more time together, and being forced to interact more as a whole.
It’s been almost 20 years since 9/11, but it’s all I can compare some of my current feelings to. Uncertainty, stress, and a feeling of helplessness.
The main differences between this crisis and 20 years ago might be the reason for my meltdown.
In 2001, we were attacked out of nowhere, and we knew who to blame. Terrorists. Bad people, with horribly evil intentions. We literally watched the entire thing unfold on TV. And in the following days, weeks, and months, every American came together to unite against a common threat. We hugged, we chugged, and we sang patriotic songs as we came together in groups to celebrate our freedom, show our appreciation for those that serve, and condemn those that hate our way of life, and try to take it away from us.
We were able to practice social bonding and physical togetherness at a time when we all needed to. Today, when we need each other the most, we need to adhere to self-disciplined distancing and isolation.
19 years ago, news was delivered on TV, radio, in the papers, and by word of mouth. We literally came together like never before, and today we have to stay apart more than we ever have.
It’s ironic that so many of the technological advancements in the last 20 years that have made life less physically social, are providing the bulk of social activity for everyone while we stay home and stay safe. That is the positive.
The negative is that social media is similar to the virus that we are fighting. Negativity can be posted in an instant, shared just as fast, and soon has exponentially spread across the world.
But so can positivity. And just like what happened after 9/11, you see a lot of the good in the world during the toughest times. That’s what I’m focusing on.
We don’t know how long this weirdness and these changes are going to last. Eventually we will be allowed to get together again.
And when that time comes, let’s not take for granted hugging our friends, shaking everyone’s hand, toasting a beer, or laughing and crying with each other arm in arm.
Because when you’re not allowed to do those things, you end up crying by yourself on the crapper.
And that ain’t fun!